Last month a friend of mine was engaged with my childhood friend. I was so happy for them and even I wasn’t invited at the first place, I still came for their big day. Ok, I was invited but the very last minute okeyh..
There’s a bunch of my friends was invited too. Most of them were my friends at secondary school. Half of them came at my wedding and only 3 who didn’t show up.
Those 3 friends that didn’t come to my wedding excitedly asked how my life was after marriage and of course the most controversial and the most sensitive “
suda?” question. Ada
Ok fine. I can accept “that question” at least. BUT...there’s one question asked from one of these 3 friends that make me speechless.
This time this “girl” asked me “KENAPA MASIH BELUM
?” with the expression like “orang lain lagi lambat kawin kot dari kau dah mengandung, yang ko lagi awal kawin ni apa pasal belum mengandung lagi. Apa hal?” ADA
If I really have the answer, I can tell everyone even strangers or even they didn’t ask, I would definitely told them “why I still can’t get pregnant after 5 months married”. The thing is JODOH, AJAL, REZEKI are all set by Allah. I didn’t have the ANSWER. Only ALLAH has the answer.
Maybe they think most married couple definitely will have sex everyday and confirmed will get pregnant after that. But sometimes, it didn’t works that way dear. That was what we think and what we want.
If I asked you guys, is there any guaranteed your friend will get married first before you do because she is the first one to have boyfriend before anybody else. And you will become the last one married because at that moment you don’t have boyfriend. Is that what you really think?
Life is full of surprises. There is no guarantee, if you are the first one who have boyfriend and definitely you are the first one who will get married too.
If that’s the case, I will be the last person married becuz during sekolah menengah I don’t have boyfriend and zero experience about couple and lovey dovey things. The reality is I am among those who marry early compared to the others even they already have boyfriend during school and I don’t.
That same goes with REZEKI specifically ANAK. If you didn’t realize about this, it’s ok. But next time be really careful before you open your mouth. Please be sensible. How about one day you will be lucky to have this experience to be like me. After 5 months marriage but no single sign to be a mum yet. How do you feel? I believe Allah is the most righteous about everything. It’s a karma thing. This time you put me into this “question”, one right day ada orang lain akan tanya you this same type of question too. And even worse you also don’t have the answer.
p/s: I don’t get A1 in my English. But I do love to try write in English. So, I hentam sahajalah yer...kalau ada broken English or any grammatical error, sy mintak maaf.
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