June 8, 2011

Ada orang tidak paham perihal REZEKI



Last month a friend of mine was engaged with my childhood friend. I was so happy for them and even I wasn’t invited at the first place, I still came for their big day. Ok, I was invited but the very last minute okeyh..

There’s a bunch of my friends was invited too. Most of them were my friends at secondary school. Half of them came at my wedding and only 3 who didn’t show up.

Those 3 friends that didn’t come to my wedding excitedly asked how my life was after marriage and of course the most controversial and the most sensitive “Ada suda?” question.

Ok fine. I can accept “that question” at least. BUT...there’s one question asked from one of these 3 friends that make me speechless.

This time this “girl” asked me “KENAPA MASIH BELUM ADA?” with the expression like “orang lain lagi lambat kawin kot dari kau dah mengandung, yang ko lagi awal kawin ni apa pasal belum mengandung lagi. Apa hal?”

If I really have the answer, I can tell everyone even strangers or even they didn’t ask, I would definitely told them “why I still can’t get pregnant after 5 months married”. The thing is JODOH, AJAL, REZEKI are all set by Allah. I didn’t have the ANSWER. Only ALLAH has the answer.

Maybe they think most married couple definitely will have sex everyday and confirmed will get pregnant after that. But sometimes, it didn’t works that way dear. That was what we think and what we want.

If I asked you guys, is there any guaranteed your friend will get married first before you do because she is the first one to have boyfriend before anybody else. And you will become the last one married because at that moment you don’t have boyfriend. Is that what you really think?

Life is full of surprises. There is no guarantee, if you are the first one who have boyfriend and definitely you are the first one who will get married too.

If that’s the case, I will be the last person married becuz during sekolah menengah I don’t have boyfriend and zero experience about couple and lovey dovey things. The reality is I am among those who marry early compared to the others even they already have boyfriend during school and I don’t.

That same goes with REZEKI specifically ANAK. If you didn’t realize about this, it’s ok. But next time be really careful before you open your mouth. Please be sensible. How about one day you will be lucky to have this experience to be like me. After 5 months marriage but no single sign to be a mum yet. How do you feel?  I believe Allah is the most righteous about everything. It’s a karma thing. This time you put me into this “question”, one right day ada orang lain akan tanya you this same type of question too. And even worse you also don’t have the answer.

p/s: I don’t get A1 in my English. But I do love to try write in English. So, I hentam sahajalah yer...kalau ada broken English or any grammatical error, sy mintak maaf.

Buah Cempedak diluar pagar,
Ambil galah tolong jolokkan,
Saya budak baru belajar,
Kalau salah tolong tunjukkan.

17 comments:

  1. owh i hate being in that kind of situation.

    last month, dekat majlis kawen sowng member ni, sume berkumpul ramai2 and that stupid question sekalik lagik ditanya. i dont mind really, as i simply reply 'da blm atas kate belum lagik. nk wat camne?"

    but what i regret the most was the fact that one of them did ask "bile lagik?" as if he didnt know bout my surgery aritu.

    hurmmm... people can be stupid sometimes. kan?

    takpe, ini masa kita, nnti masa die pulak kan. tu je aku pk skng

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  2. tini, kwazi pun ada terfikir mau tulis entry english dalam 1 minggu. hihi. sambil2 blogging boleh belajar bahasa inggeris sekali. tapi mungkin bila kwazi tulis dlm bi, pendek2 ja entry kwazi tu. hehehe.

    hmm, x apa tu tini. kwazi rasa kalau orang belum alami sendiri, dia xkan faham pasal rezeki tu jugak. kalau kita tau sebab kenapa belum ada, senang kita bagitau. smile & be happy because we have our hubby with us! :))

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  3. Takpe la Tini, sabo je.... ssh kita nak memahamkan org yg tak faham ni.
    Eh..amenda da aku tulis ni. hahaha

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  4. Biarla,
    kita belajar untuk faham diri kita da cukup,
    kalo dengar cakap semua orang, sepanjang masa kita hanya akan bersedih...Betul cakap Kwazi, yang penting kita Ada suami yang sentiasa bersama..

    Bukan nak mendoakan orang lain,
    tapi, sy yakin satu hari nanti Allah akan membalas segalanya...n myb terkena Batang hidung sendiri, baru mereka akan faham..

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  5. Some people memang tak fikir sensitivity & perasaan orang lain bila bercakap. I pun tak faham orang macam ni. Serious. Haha. Member tu belum kahwin ye?

    Takpe, you just cool je, Tini. Masuk telinga kanan, keluar telinga kiri. Jangan simpan dalam hati. Betul cakap AniE, dah kena batang hidung sendiri baru dorang tahu.

    Kalau time kena batang hidung orang tu, I nak gelak kuat-kuat boleh? Hahaha no offence, ya. Gurau kasar je. Bengang sangat ni! ;)

    P/S: Your attempt to write in English is good. Not bad at all. Keep it up!

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  6. turun naik nafas saya baca entri ni. macam saya yg ditanya dengan soalan macam tu.

    Moga mereka sedar.

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  7. ~S~ - itulah sbb sy dah malas nak g kenduri atau kenduri kawin. malas dgr pertanyaan "kurang pintar" dorang tu. kadang2 kan, sy rasa nak jer jwb dorang tu mcm ni.."kenapa tnya sy? tnya Allah dia yg tentukan smua ni..

    sy pun kdg2 tergerak jugak nak doa supaya dorang dapat rasa apa yg kita rasa skrg ni..kwn i yg tnya tu belum kawin..nak je i ckp "yg ko tu belum kawin bila nak kwin, kalo aku blum ada anak pun, at least aku dah kawin..tp x smpai hati nak ckp cmtu. biarlah. Allah itu kan MAHA ADIL.

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  8. kwazie - x pyh fikir2 lagi kak. tulis jak entry dlm English. bukan apa, kalo kita tulis dlm english at least kita boleh perbaiki english kita kan? mmg mcm malu jugak kalo ada salah, tp x apa. mistakes is the best teacher in the world right?

    psl kwn sy yg tanya mcm tu tu, kaka pun kenal dia.mmg smeshian jugak tp blum lagi kawin la..hehehe..btul2,sy bersyukur dpt husband sy. sgt sbr n understanding. Alhamdulillah.

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  9. kak reen -hehe,,btul, mmg susah nak memahamkan orang mcm tu kak. kena kat btg hidung dorang nnt, tahu lah dorang nnt.

    Anie - btul sgt tu Anie. bukan nak mendoakan tapi memang dah hukum karma. kalo one day kita buat "mcm ni" kat org, nnt org lain akan buat "mcm tu" jugak kat kita.. biarlah, abaikan jer la. buat kita stress jer nnt. at least ada jugak hubby untuk happy2 kan kita.

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  10. Sis Hannah - Thanks kak Hannah. i will try to write more in English and please "tunjuk ajar ku sifu" in english writing. i know u r superb in that.

    Kalau time kena batang hidung orang tu, i pun nak gelak kuat2..hehehe..jahat kan? tp tulah, orng x akan buat jahat kalo dia x mula dulu kan?

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  11. irtiyah - tu baru baca irtiyah. kalo mcm sy yg kena tnya soalan mcm tu, dah naik merah padam muka sy. Dah la dia tnya dpn smua orang. geram jugak kalo pikir. tp x pelah. pasti ada hikmah disebalik smua ni kan. smoga dorang2 ni sedar.

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  12. lalink.. akak dah banyak dapat soklan nie sebelom2 nie.. tapi akak ada standard jawapan.. nnt akak story kat entry baru ye..

    apa2 pon.. be positive.. bior laa org nak cakap apa pon.. janji kita tahu apa kita buat

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  13. kak ain lalink - dah baca entry akak tu sblm reply comment akak ni. sy pun akan try praktikkan standard jawapan mcm ni.ehhe. thanks kak. :)

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  14. dear...

    5bulan tu masih baru lg taw..sy dlu..inai pon dok merah lg..hihi

    dah setahun kawen..stillxde baby..opkos makin rmai yg btnya..tp kita kena tabah..

    relax je k..sy rasa apa yg tini rasa k..kita redha je..

    org lain takkn phm kita melainkan diri kita sndri n hubby..cayalah..ada rezeki kita nanti..

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  15. Tinie : yes keep bagi jawapan yang sama.. kalau org tanya.. akak bg standard jawapan tu almost 6 bulan lebih gak.. sampaikan bila akak dah pregnant betol2 pon ramai yang x percaya akak pregnant.. hehehe.. dia org still ingat akak main2.. sbb dulu jawapan akak x penah berubah.. asyik 3 bulan jerk...

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  16. hi tini..

    lama dah tak dtg sini..tini sht?

    takpe dik, just ignore je.. bersabar byk2 ye..

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  17. org buat2 tak paham tya soalan2 mcm tu kat kita..kita buat2 tak paham soalan gak lah...cer derang tya lain..kita jawap lain..mau bengang tak org tu? hehee

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